Introducing Sex Toys into your Relationship

I know so many people who would like to bring sex toys into their relationship but have been too worried to do anything about it incase they offend their partner. I'm also sure that many people out there have tried to share a favourite sex toy with their partner and were not expecting such a negative response. Whatever the reason, it is possible to introduce sex toys into your relationship. Here are three good reasons for doing just that.

1. Sex toys help you to have better orgasms, and in some cases help you to have orgasms. 2. At some point in a relationship both parties get bored with their sex life, introducing sex toys brings a new element of fun to it and sharing new experiences together can only help enhance your relationship and bring more intimacy between you. 3. Sex toys can also help you to have better sex.

Whilst the above comments would be enough to convince some people, others will need a little more convincing. Before going out and buying a sex toy to use within your relationship it's always better to sit down with your partner beforehand to discuss how each other feels about this new idea. You should always treat your partners concerns with respect, and be prepared to deal with feelings such as inadequacy, emotional discomfort and ignorance. With all things in relationships, it's always best to discuss things through and listen to each others points of view.

While sex toys are commonly used for solo sex, many couples enjoy using sex toys together. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your relationship, quite the opposite in fact. Usually it means both people are open-minded, intimate and trusting of their partner.

Once you are comfortable about bringing sex toys into the relationship, just remember a few basic tips.

Start slow. Try a nice, simple small dildo or vibrator. Once your partner is used to the toy, you can always try something else. Be gentle. Your partner may like it on the rough side, but hold back a little for the first few times you play with vibrators or dildos. There's plenty of time to up the pace later.

Talk to your partner. They may have agreed to use the toy, but that doesn't mean your lover is 100% comfortable with the idea. Talk your way through the experience. Ask your partner if what you are doing together feels good. If it doesn't, try something else. Use lubrication. Sex toys need lots of lube to slip and slide the way they should.

Be flexible. The toy you've selected might turn out to be something totally different to what you were expecting. Don't worry, put it aside and try something different. Be patient. Your partner may agree to play with the toy, and then change their mind half way through the experience. Be patient and try again another time. It might take time, but it will be worth the wait. The important thing to remember is that your relationship is a partnership, which implies that both of you are in this together, make the decisions together and select the toy together. Sharing the experience goes a long way to promoting even more trust between you. Most of all, enjoy the experience. If it really isn't for you, then at least you've tried something new.

Karen Jack is a popular writer, her main areas of interest are relationships, health and music. http://www.bondara.co.uk